Key Questions

“If you don’t know your options, you don’t have any.”

-Diana Korte

One of our favorite quotes at BBC, and exactly where our name came from.  Knowing your choices is key.  Key to support, key to using your voice, key to walking towards the kind of birth you hope for, key.

In our childbirth classes, we review what we call the ‘Key Questions Card.’ It’s this little golden nugget that you can carry around in your back pocket, birthed out of trainings from Penny Simkin and DONA International, carried through Lamaze, Passion for Birth, and Birth Matters, and now it’s a BBC must have. Here’s what it says:

  • What is it?
  • How does it impact mom?
  • How does it impact baby?
  • Are there any natural things we can do first?
  • How long can we wait?

Now, first I want to say that this key questions card is not meant to question your doctor’s knowledge, experience, or training.  Of course their input is incredibly valuable, but sometimes their road and yours look different. The primary goal here is to be informed, and to make choices that put you on a mutual path.  So often, the leap of, ‘You don’t trust me’ is made before the bridge of, ‘Let’s talk about options’ is ever crossed. Find the bridge, walk it together early on in your pregnancy, and make sure you’re on the same path.

Think about it this way.  If you were talking with a well known car manufacturer and could ask any question you wanted about the vehicle that you were about to spend your life savings on, what would you ask?

  • How does it run?
  • What happens if I do this?
  • How was it made?
  • What’s the best way to keep it running well?
  • What kind of information can you give me about this?

Or, would you just drive it off the lot and never question at all?

You are seeking knowledge in order to make good, informed decisions about your investment.  You are the consumer.  You have choices.

So, when options about pregnancy and labor come along, and they will, ask. And ask early on – start this process now.  Be informed.  Get wise counsel, seek your care provider’s thoughts, weigh your options, and make your beautiful birth choices.

Childbirth Classes in Full Swing!

New Year! New Projects and our Childbirth teaching is primo on our list. We have had SUCH a blessed year in 2009 with 30 – THIRTY!!!! babies that we have helped welcome to the world. It has just been joyous! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

So, onto getting our teaching established better. We will be teaching mainly out of Julia’s home which is more centrally located in the city area. Plan to have continual 5 week childbirth classes running and if demand gets high we will adjust to fit those schedules. As of now, a class will consist of 4 couples so will be nice and small, yet big enough to do our fun games and hands on activities. Our first class is planned to begin next week Wednesday, January 20th. There is still space in this class if you are due around March or early April. (Or have friends or clients due…let them know) We also have one beginning on March 31st for 5 weeks. Just contact one of us if you want to get in on these classes. We will post others as they are scheduled.

I want to leave you will a wonderful story that my amazing VBAC Twin mom from March sent to me. It is about VBAC TRIPLETS!!! It was in Georgia and I totally tip my doula hat to that doc, hospital and especially the MOM!!! Women are so amazing!

Listening to Mothers II 2006 report

In class I realized I was giving out information from the 2002 Listening to Mothers I report. Although very similar, I thought would be good to give you access to the 2006 report. It only recently came available for free and I will update my information! It is LONG but can scan through for things might be interested in. I thought pg 34 was interesting with all the interventions and how often they were used as well as the information on inductions. Nothing about the low amnio fluid. It shows me how “new” this cause for induction. I wonder where it will place on the next survey!

Take this information and add it to you mental toolkit you bring with you to appointments and into labor. I give this to you to help you recognize the birth you would like and the reality of what is happening in deliveries so that you can be prepared to A) change your plan a bit to adjust to what the norm is so as to not be taken off guard. and/or B) advocate for the things you have researched to be most beneficial to the outcome you would like.

While some of you have had a medical journey up to the point of conception, you have been doing this all on your own up to today. Your body has been taking care of this baby and growing and feeding and loving and nurturing and protecting and surrounding it with so much good things! The reasons for any medical aspects needing to take part in your process of taking care of your baby on the outside rather than the inside are VERY minimal. Labor and delivery and parenting afterward are all just an extension of what you are doing already. And doing it beautifully! Keep up the good work!